There are three levels of obedience in children’s development:
Traditional punishments are arguably ineffective. Yes, they might have the immediate effect the adult is seeking, but at what long term cost? Traditional punishments only teach children to do something out of fear of punishment or fear of you, not for respect for the greater good or because it’s not appropriate (or safe etc.).
Sometimes it is necessary to step in and discipline your child. However, keep in mind that discipline and punishments are two very different things. Discipline means “to teach”, not to punish. Punishment is just giving an illogical reaction to something that is perceived by the adult to be ‘wrong,’ e.g. a smack, isolation in time out, sitting on a naughty chair etc.
Discipline uses that ‘wrong’ behaviour as a teachable moment to show the correct and expected behaviour.
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