‘Sink or Swim No Lifeboat’ Rule

‘Sink or Swim No Lifeboat’ Rule

It sounds dramatic, but it’s not! In essence, this rule allows your child to practice responsibility and natural consequences of their actions.

Sink or Swim No Lifeboat Steps: 

  1. Explain to your child that it is now their responsibility to do XZY. 
  2. Ask what their plan is to help themselves remember to do XYZ.
  3. Explain again that it is their responsibility, and you will no longer be reminding them of XYZ.
  4. That’s it.

Now one of two things will happen. Either they will successfully rise to the challenge and do it independently, or they won’t. And if they don’t, that’s ok. BUT, it is not your job to save them. It was their responsibility, and this is a beautiful life lesson from which they can learn and evolve. If you then remind them or jump in to save the day, you are essentially saying to them that you don’t trust them and that they aren’t capable.

You need to let them experience ‘failure’ (we know there is no such thing even if it feels like it) and learn these lessons now when they are young, and there isn’t as much riding on their success. How else will they learn these skills if they don’t practice them?

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