- Think about what type of attachment your child is currently displaying.
- Ask yourself “were there any limiting beliefs that rose up inside me about this topic?” Perhaps a family member has told you that you are ‘coddling’ your child too much or you or your child is ‘too clingy’ (these are both absolute nonsense by the way!). Can you identify where in your past this stems from?
- Ask yourself, “has my perspective on my child’s attachment changed now, if so how?”
- Ask yourself, “what could I do more of to increase their secure attachment and fill their love tanks?”
- I recommend reading ‘The 5 Love Languages of Children’ by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell. It is a fantastic book which gives heaps of suggestions for how to connect with your child using their love language (there’s also a version of this book for adults which is just as fantastic). Remember to keep in mind that not all the suggestions will be neurodiverse-friendly but use it as food for thought and experiment a little – you won’t know until you try, right?
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